Be kind not nice

Listening to Hugh Mackay's talk about kindness vs nicety 

I realised how many times, 

those who hadn't been very nice to me, 

had actually been quite kind. And vice versa. 

What's then important?

To be kind, or to be nice? 

AS sometimes, if you are kind to them, you need to hurt people, and tell them the truth! 


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