Advice re loving someone

 From time to time, sit close to the one you love, hold his or her hand, and ask, ‘Darling, do I understand you enough? Or am I making you suffer? Please tell me so that I can learn to love you properly. I don’t want to make you suffer, and if I do so because of my ignorance, please tell me so that I can love you better so that you can be happy.” If you say this in a voice that communicates your real openness to understand, the other person may cry.

 

That is a good sign because it means the door of understanding is opening and everything will be possible again.

 

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